I have the same car, bought in 2009, with 18,000 miles on it. Currently it is close to 100,000 miles. It still has that light tapping noise when cold, but it does go away when warmed up. I asked the dealer a while back and the response was that it is not the valves but rather the fuel injectors. Not so sure about that, but it has not become worse over these many years and miles. The oil, whether conventional or synthetic, does not seem to make any difference at all. I have been using conventional 5W-30 all along, changed at 5K intervals, and the engine is perfect, with the oil surprising clean at the end of the interval.
Now regarding the gasoline octane. The car REQUIRES minimum 91 grade. When I bought it, the dealer said I could use 87. Well, under light load, it worked OK, but the moment I hit a hill, or accelerated hard, the engine pinged like crazy and the entire front end shook wildly. Checking the manual afterwards, it said very clearly not to use any gas under 91, unless in an emergency! Most likely, the previous owner drove the car very lightly so she may have not noted the poor behavior during more realistic driving, but at the same time, it is very unlikely she permanently damaged it. So just use 91 or 93 octane and you will enjoy the car for a long time.