A few things have happened since I posted this problem:
* I took it to my mechanic and had only the one side reseated with a new gasket (he told me the other side was perfectly fine).
* Noticed an absolutely amazing difference in noise level, how can a little ring make such an impact?
* Last week, I noticed the other side was now making noise, and made an appointment to have it fixed. Before I took it in, it was cold out and I noticed exhaust escaping from BOTH sides, even the one that had been fixed already. My mechanic fixed both for free and used a high-temp sealant to make the seal even tighter, and the noise is way way down with the car (so much so that I'm noticing new noises!).
* Problem is, when going over the previous owner's service records, I noticed he had the same thing done at 70k (the car's now at 90k). This got me worried, as it seems like a potentially larger issue.
I read at this link: http://www.clublexus.com/forums/showthread.php?t=143739 about a similar problem and it was caused by a blockage in the Y-pipe -- thing is, I'm not experiencing any power loss at all, and the car's running smooooth.
Can anyone give me an idea of what else could be causing this flange seperation?
PS. As an aside, I had this entire problem fixed at my mechanics for $25 -- the previous owner paid $300!! Thanks everyone!