ok so i got the solenoid connector disconnected and the situation has improved drastically with some slight variations in the symptoms.
i can shift up and down all i want manually now. (my car basically a manual with no 2nd gear now)......I coult TOTALLY live with that except for one slight thing..... everytime i come to a stop and go (i.e. stop sign, red light, random kid in the road) it does it again, except now its more like neutral, i push the gas and it just goes nowhere even in high rpm no matter what gear im in. if I cycle the ignition and start the car it works imediatly.
I drove around for about 20 miles and it did the slip in 1st gear like before one time ( except this time i dont have to wait in between cycling the ignition, i can literally throw it in neutral cycle the ignition 1 time and start the car put it in gear and keep going all without even pulling over) ......CRAZY right?!??!?!
so now my question is the stop n go problem because one of the 4 disconnected solenoids is the lock up solenoid which i think has something to do with the torque converter?
or is maybe my issue the torque converter this whole time? ....... I feel like a freaking detective.. happy new year!!