well, i've discovered that the first few times i tried the ignition, i just sat in the car, so i didn't hear anything. but i popped the hood and had someone try it, and it just clicked a few times, and nothing really happened. sometimes, what i'm assuming was the abs motor, would make a spinning noise like it was trying to start, but maybe not getting power.
so, how do i remove the damn fuses to even check them to see if they need replaced? i spent 10 mins trying to wiggle one out, but was afraid of breaking something. i noticed there are 4 plastic pins that lock into place, but without some special tool, it seems very difficult. that, or i'm just going about it in the wrong way.
but, it sounds like either the abs relay, or motor relay cartridge is blown from what i can tell.