Do you know what the "right equipment" would be? I think you are correct about "flashing" the thing... i found the same type of comments on other forums. Do you think it's strictly soft issue?
I have a friend who sent his ECU out with the same issue, and it came back totally fixed, his problems is totally gone, that's why i assumed that there is a fix.
it is 95, the car always starts back and idles fine, no problem. It usually happens after hard braking, only after frankly long operation (if you just start it up, take off, and brake hard it doesn't happen).