Well I googled info on the little box and a lot of people have had it die on them and have had the same problems as me. They opened it up and resoldered, since I have no experience in soldering and a new box costs about $250, dealer only. I went to 2 junk yards but all of the little yellow boxes were gone are messed up like mine.
I started checking wires again and saw that the license plate lights still cut on so I just spliced those into the green wire that controled the running lights. I used an inline fuse 20amp and some make some nice strong connections and then protected everything with electrical tape just in case, fixed everything. Now when I turn on the headlights the running lights come on but this is just a temporary fix because bypassing the little box means the dash will not tell me if a tail light is out.
I fused it just in case I'd rather be safe than sorry and have an even bigger problem to fix.
Thanks for all your help everyone let me know any thoughts/comments you have.