I think he was of the opinion that the rubber would be of a slightly different make-up for the two tires, and that the H rated may not hold up while the V would. I'm not sure this is true, just as you are, but I don't know it is not.
Another thread (irregular tire wear), however suggests that lots of suspension parts could be at fault, and this does seem to make more sense. Besides, I'm reading way too many testimonies of those that use H rated tires and had no problems.
Is there a way of telling who knows suspensions well enough to diagnose if the problem is shocks, torsion bars or struts, tie rod ends, etc., etc., etc?
I would be grateful for any help.
Phil