I drive a 2004 RX330 ... have been driving it for approx. 6 months now and I love it. My wife drives a BMW 330i and she loves the bimmer. OMG It should've been the other way around ... this is so messed up.
Seriously though .. who gives a damn 'bout stereotypes. In the bay area, mostly SUVs are driven by women anyways.
I haven't been hearing too many good things about the new TLs... so in case you decide to get a new ride, you may wanna consider the inifiniti g35 or the good ol' bimmer over the TL.